Paralysed by fear

I've noticed recently that some of my clients have a fear about getting divorced which can be paralysing for them. Witnessing people who are successful, confident and incredibly powerful people, become so doubting of themselves when making a decision to change something that's making them unhappy is a phenomenon that I see regularly, and it goes beyond normal uncertainty about what might happen after a big change.

So what's the fear about?

In coaching we refer to a concept called 'the Saboteur'. It embodies the part of yourself that has a glass which is firmly 'half empty' (sometimes there's no glass at all!) and it tells us all the reasons why doing the thing which may bring us joy and fulfillment, may in fact do the complete opposite and cause the sky to fall. So we do nothing.

When confronted by this - ask yourself 3 questions:

1. What's really at risk and what is the real likelihood of the worst case scenario happening?
2. What are 5 other outcomes that might happen as well as the 'best' and 'worst' case scenarios?
3. What will change if I do nothing? (hint: it will change - nothing stays the same!)

Think about the areas in your life where your Saboteur is running the show - then take control back!

Have a great week.

Simon